Listening to Pain: What My Groin Pain Taught Me About Feminine Energy, Emotion & Healing

Pain is one of the body’s most misunderstood messengers.

Most of us try to push through it, numb it, or ignore it. I’ve done the same, especially when I’m focused on training, creating, or being in constant action.

But recently, my body began speaking louder.

Groin pain. Pelvic discomfort. Emotional waves during my cycle. Deep sadness. Irritability. Anxiety.

All rising together like a tide I could no longer outrun.

At first, I treated it as purely physical. But the deeper I looked, the more I realised this wasn’t just about muscles or hormones…

It was about alignment - emotional, spiritual, and feminine alignment.

This blog shares what I discovered, how reconnecting with feminine softness changed everything, and the powerful shift that happened overnight after one meditation.

If you’ve been navigating pain, tension, or emotional heaviness… this might help you understand what your body is trying to tell you too.

The pain in my pelvis first began during pregnancy, when my pelvic bones shifted too close together. More recently, it returned as a left-sided groin ache that intensified around my cycle.

As I researched, reflected, and tuned into my body, I learned that groin and pelvic pain can be linked to:

• stored emotional distress

• old trauma

• fear and self-worth wounds

• hormone fluctuations (especially low progesterone)

• not listening to the body’s cues

• pushing instead of pausing

Low progesterone, known as the calming hormone, can increase irritability, anxiety, emotional sensitivity, and physical discomfort.

Combined with an overloaded nervous system, the emotional signals become even louder.

When the pain is at its worst, I’m usually operating heavily in masculine energy:

• doing

• pushing

• creating

• striving

• action, action, action

And while these are beautiful energies, they become overwhelming when unbalanced.

My feminine energy - softness, intuition, rest, receiving, being, had taken a back seat.

My body was telling me:
“Slow down. Soften. Come home to yourself.”

Any time the pain returned, I would feel an ache far deeper than the physical sensation.
Sadness about the running and sports I feel I’ve lost.

Frustration about my limitations.

The grief of not moving the way I used to.

Irritability without understanding why.

These emotions aren’t random.

They’re messages.

Your body always uses emotions to communicate:

• sadness

• irritability

• overwhelm

• anxiety

• tenderness

They are invitations to pause, breathe, and ask:

What needs attention?
What needs softness?
What needs to be felt?

Last night, after reading more about the emotional and spiritual roots of pain, I felt guided to try something gentle.

I chose a Divine Feminine Activation meditation by Meditate With Alice on YouTube - a practice filled with soft affirmations, imagery, and invitations into feminine flow and intuition.

As I listened, something softened inside me.

My breath deepened.
My nervous system eased.
My body finally felt heard.

And this morning…

✨ I woke up pain-free.

It was such a powerful reminder:

When we slow down and listen, our body can finally relax.
When we soften, the body feels safe enough to release pain.

If I hadn’t listened to my body, I would still be pushing, forcing, and waking up in pain today.

If you struggle with sadness, irritability, anxiety, or emotional heaviness during your cycle (or during pain flare-ups), the Emotional Flow Breath Technique in Chapter One of my book can help you move these emotions gently through the body.

My book, Everything Is Already Within You, is now available in digital format, and includes energy-based practices and meditations:

Grab your copies here:
👉 www.aleyyoung.com

If this resonates with you or if you’re curious about the emotional, hormonal, and spiritual meaning behind pain, I invite you to listen to the full podcast episode.

In it, I share:

• my full story

• the emotional/spiritual symbolism of groin pain

• the role of progesterone in emotional shifts

• how feminine energy imbalance shows up in the body

• the exact meditation that shifted everything

• gentle practices to support your healing

• how to ask your body the right questions

✨ Listen here:

EP29: Listening to Pain as a Sacred Messenger

Your body is wise.
Your emotions are messengers.
And healing often begins the moment we choose to slow down and listen.

Further Resources for you to explore these concepts further:

⭐ The 6-Step Reset for Those Who Are Ready to Forgive, Heal & Rise

⭐ The Empath's Guide to Reclaiming Your Energy

⭐ Everything Is Already Within You -You've Read the Books. Said the Affirmations. Now Learn to Actually Feel the Shift.

⭐ 10 Patterns, One Ritual - Release the Identities That Were Never Yours to Carry